6. Bake cookies together, and sit and enjoy them.
5. Take ONE with you on errands or even better, on a date. When we get one in the car alone, she/he usually talks our ears off.
4. Write notes to each other. I even pass a journal back and forth with my daughter. I started it when she was 9. Sometimes she leaves hidden messages for me in my purse that just say "I love you."3. If I have to work at something, I tell them how much help they are (even if they actually make MORE work for me) so that we can still be together. Working elbow to elbow leads to great discussions.
2. If you need to talk to a teen, doing it in the car seems easier than just sitting face to face. They don't have to be intimidated by eye contact because you have to watch the road, so they tend to open up more.
1. Go ahead and relax some of the rules about TV, movies or music, to allow things that actually have bad words and sex scenes and drugs- bringing up those topics in THAT context is more generic than having to confront your kid face-to-face about it. So it's just easier to let your opinion out and hear from them what they think.
2 comments:
With two teens, the last two are working very well right now. First you listen, then you get a chance for input. It's nice.
great list. : )
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